Pay careful attention to the kinds of extra things people do “for” you. If someone gets you little surprise gifts but consistently doesn’t do the things you explicitly ask for, take note of that.
I’ve had friends, family members, and partners who would get me little surprises, try to engage me in conversation about the things they think I like, or done otherwise evidently “considerate” things, but consistently did not do the things I explicitly asked of them. If I ask you to clean up after yourself in a common area and you get me a cupcake instead, you’re not actually doing anything nice for me. You’ve elected to do a different thing that is easier for you. What’s insidious is that it is difficult to address this without looking ungrateful. These people are doing things for their own satisfaction, not for your well-being.
At the end of the day, interpersonal relationships are about collaborating and observing what others have asked you to help them with. You don’t pass a class by only doing extra credit, but never turning in homework. You can’t survive on cupcakes alone. Relationships cannot thrive on empty niceties.
Finished my Jaina Proudmoore cosplay this weekend! I’ve been wanting to cosplay her for years, and when I saw her Bfa outfit I knew I just had to do it! Everything is made by me, staff and some armor bits 3d modeled. Was such a difficult and fun challenge to make her! Can’t wait to take some proper photos of me dressed as her.
did some requests for friends / comms for mutuals for the last week leading up into the final stretch where I have an idea to wrap up the project for the month. (as such, this group is not for sale!)
h.possible bard characters i wanna keep. harpy prostitute w/ claws and very soft wings who dances and has lil bells on her ankles as her instrument . she is Very pretty and loves 2 uplift women. and then snow leopard tabaxi with giant soft paws who tries t design new instruments all the time. hard 2 be the bard personified
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